We as moms always wonder how adding a child will affect our other kids. Really we worry over everything, but it comes with the territory. Moms try to find ways to help ease the transition and hope that it helps even remotely. We want to be less jealousy and more love between our kids. Love makes our lives as parents a little easier, especially when your first child no longer has all the attention. Here are some tips to help you and your first child get ready for baby number 2.
As soon as you find out, include them in the celebration!
My 2 year old loved taking cute photos for our announcement and getting a new outfit for it. Made her feel special while we explained to her that there is a baby in mommy’s tummy.
Have your child kiss your tummy and say night night to baby.
It helps it become normal and a routine. Kids learn how to act from things they do and see. This way you are putting a positive action towards baby.
Let them pick out baby toys and clothes.
We took our daughter to a clearance event at a store and let her pick 2 toys and 2 gender neutral outfits for baby to help her get excited and feel like they are equal. (we didn’t know the gender yet) It helps children feel more included and loved. Like they are important.
Let them (help) do the baby’s room or section of room with you.
We have baby living in our bedroom for at least the first 6 months, so we are making a section for him or her. We let her bring us a tool or part of crib, bring items to put on shelves and such to get the room ready and organized. They like being big helpers.
Talk about the baby regularly every week or few days to her your child get used to hearing it.
Once baby comes all anyone will talk about is the baby. (baby cuddles, baby kisses, cute baby and anything under the sun baby related as it will again take over the house and conversation.)
There are more creative ways to help, but these helped us so much and made having a baby seem normal to our 2 year old little girl. If jealousy does happen, just keep calmly talking to them down at their level and get them used to being around the baby and helping you take care of them. Just make sure they don’t do too much to help. Let them be involved.
Congrats on the new baby! Enjoy your little bundle of joy and the precious time when they are small.
Misty Eilar is a mom of 2, a wife, a blogger and a virtual assistant. You can visit her blog at www.thiftymamalife.com.